Walking and Talking – the new mental health therapy

We are all aware of the benefits of exercising regularly, for our physical wellbeing. No one could deny how good it feels to ‘get something off your chest’, whether it be chatting to a girlfriend over a coffee, or offloading to a counsellor.

New York social worker, Clay Cockrell, has decided to ‘take his therapy off the couch and into the great outdoors’. A new kind of mental health treatment is being trialled that combines traditional talk therapy with physical exercise.

Cockrell is concerned that antidepressants are taking away business from talk therapy. A recent study found that less than 15 per cent of patients had an effective amount of follow up treatment after starting medication.

There is an added bonus in this ‘walk and talk therapy’ and that’s the exercise. For people who find it difficult to exercise, talking seems to help divert their attention from the physical activity. Research has shown that even a light stroll helps diminish bad moods and relieve pain. Although it’s not for everyone, those who embrace this therapy say it combines fitness and healing, with some fun and fresh air!

It is widely known that exercise can boost serotonin levels, thus improving mood. Supporters of the combined walking and talking approach, advocate that being active during the session helps patients to relax and open up. In fact, for those trivia buffs, in the late 1800’s Freud walked with his patients through the streets of Vienna.

Some patients can become anxious when confronting difficult issues in a traditional face-to–face setting, but walking with visual and verbal distractions can make for easier engagement.

“It’s very similar to traditional psychotherapy,” says Cockrell, “except you are walking while you are talking about issues. I have found that bringing a little movement enriches the counselling session. My clients are intrigued by the idea and are naturally drawn to being outside.”

Kelly, gang in Bendigo – taking the train to walk

A unanimous choice for our Walky Talky Group last month was a trip to Bendigo to visit the Grace Kelly Exhibition. To a group of50-something women, Grace Kelly represented a beautiful, ageless icon from our younger days.

Just for the record, even though walking is one of our ‘core’ activities, we happily embrace opportunities which bring us together. This will certainly be evident in my future blog posts, which I hope inspires readers to start up your own group.

We decided to travel to Bendigo by train, and for most of us, it was our first experience on V-line. Don’t wait until you are eligible for your Seniors card, as it is relaxing, comfortable way to travel.  After such an early start to the morning (we left Frankston at 7.30am!!), the aroma wafting from the coffee vendor at Southern Cross, was heavenly.

We all settled into our reserved seats, chatting, reading and snoozing for the duration of the trip. Arriving at Bendigo Station, we were greeted by a gorgeous, friendly man, armed with everything there was to know about ‘my city’. As it was such a beautiful day, we decided to walk into the centre, taking in the various landmarks along the way. (after all we are a walking group!)

One of our other favourite past times is good food, coffee and wine, so we made sure we allowed plenty of time for a leisurely lunch. If you are ever in Bendigo, you must drop into GPO and have the Duck Salad and a glass of Pinot! Wow!walkytalky walk bendigo

A short stroll through the beautiful gardens to the Exhibition, we arrived with 10 minutes to spare, for our 2pm entry. We were delighted to walk straight in as we had been dreading the well-publicised queues.

We decided to meet back at the station in time to catch the4.28 back to Melbourne. An opportunity to peruse our catalogues and reflect on our day. It would be fair to say we were a little disappointed in the some aspects of the Exhibition, but overall, we were so glad we had seen it.

Overwhelmingly, the verdict was a wonderful day with women sharing and enjoying time together. I can’t finish up without mentioning the hot, salty, crispy potato cakes we devoured on Flinders St Station…..

Impulse -sharing the most important moment talking or silent

A last minute opportunity was presented to me last week, when my daughter suggested to me I join her on the Gold Coast.broadbeach

As usual all the reasons why I shouldn’t or couldn’t presented themselves – work, visiting my mum, chores, money, time………then a light bulb moment – aren’t these all reasons why I SHOULD go! My wellbeing needed a bit of a boost.

So after lots of last minute juggling, I waved my husband goodbye at the airport and was so relieved to fall into my seat on the plane!

We both arrived at the hotel within minutes of each other, eagerly competing for the ‘person most exhausted.’ Even though I was certain I was, I strategically allowed Amelia to win, knowing we had 4 days ahead together.footprints

After sipping on a cup of tea, we changed into our comfy clothes and headed out for a walk along the beach. Aaahhh… that first step onto the sand in bare feet after being in winter boots for weeks. For the most part we walked in silence, happy not to talk and just enjoy being together.

Over the next few days, we rose early and headed out for our walk, before sitting down to a scrumptious platter of tropical fruits for breakfast. By the third morning we were so surprised how far we had walked, and how much we had talked! It was such a beautiful time of bonding and sharing – priceless in a relationship between mother and daughter.

One of our rules (actually my rule and she has to follow) is no mobile phones while we are walking. Which was some feat to begin with; as I was positive her iPhone was surgically attached to her hand!

I have even taken the courageous step of disallowing (it doesn’t sound as dictatorial as ‘banned?’) mobiles on our Walky Talky group walks. Even if we’re not talking, the silence is precious.

WalkyTalky – the inspiration for a women’s group

For a long time I had wanted to establish a women’s group that would be a vehicle for networking, support and the health of my friends – I just couldn’t identify a structure that suited my vision, but then …

Several years ago I read about an event which involved a collection of corporate high flyers, celebrities and young people from various backgrounds, walking from Apollo Bay to Lorne. There were approximately 20 of each, with all the corporates contributing $10,000 each, which would go towards assisting kids in need. A brilliant fundraiser you have to agree! But much more valuable in my eye, and to the delight of the organisers, were the relationships which developed, and the hearts and souls which were laid bare along the way. Unlikely pairings, confessions, new friendships….. Certainly it was anticipated that the adults would provide support to the kids, lending an ear and offering advice, but no one could have guessed the enormous impact the young ones would have on these self-assured, successful adults! The edict behind it…..”those who walk together, talk together”

After many hours and kilometres, the weary participants arrived at their destination – a makeshift village of Indian teepees which would be their accommodation for the night. Exhausted, yet exhilarated, they all gathered around the campfire, devouring a hearty meal and eagerly sharing their experience. One CEO tearfully related that he had reconnected with his estranged teenage daughter; another declared that overtime for himself and his management team was going to be seriously limited; the teenage boy from a juvenile detention centre had found himself a mentor; the overweight celebrity who had not exercised in years! And so the stories went on.

Would the same outcome have been achieved if this group had been ensconced in four walls? Probably not.

I have never forgotten this story and the adage of “walking and talking.”

In a world where social media has replaced conversation (don’t start me!), I was really missing those long chats with girlfriends, where the world’s problems are solved. I was also finding it increasingly difficult to find time to exercise. Or finding too many excuses?walkytalky take coffee

If I was feeling this, I wondered how many of my friends were. As I suspected, I was not alone…..

And so the ‘Walky Talkys’ was born.  Three years later we’re still going strong. We meet once a month for a walk, we have formed new friendships and we enjoy our annual trip away. And we have discovered some great coffee haunts…..a compulsory requirement at the end of each walk!

My ultimate goal is to see ‘Walky Talky’ groups popping up all over the world! It is so easy and inexpensive, and the benefits are endless.